Instead of plastering my car with bumpers stickers like, “My child is an honor student” or “My child beat up your honor student,” mine might say, “My child rejected your honor.” It’s something I’m not sure how to handle.
I try not to take the whole school gifted program too seriously. Sure, I see the benefits. They seem to offer students a more extensive focus on a topic and it seems the students enjoy them. I just never worried or aspired for my kids to have that label tied to them. For example, how some parents will tell you that their kids are gifted before they even tell you their names.
When Nia was tested in Kindergarten, we didn’t make a fuss about it. She needed to pass three of the four areas and only passed two. They told us then that she was pretty young to be considered and they were sure other teachers would recommend her in the future. We weren’t sad, mad or disappointed. In fact, we didn’t give it another thought until last week when we got another letter saying she’s being considered for the program but they need our permission to test her. I thought, sure, why not? She could take the tests again. Well, it turns out, she doesn’t want to.
She told us that the tests were boring. They take too long. She doesn’t want to miss class. She doesn’t care about the field trips that the gifted kids get to go on because that would mean she would have to miss class. She doesn’t want to do those projects. She likes to do her classwork.
She outsmarted/out-answered us on every response we gave her. She definitely passes my gifted test.
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At her age I think “gifted” is a waste of time. Later the more advanced or in-depth study does make a difference. Also the behavior of children, and the amount of misbehavior distractions make it important for the kids.The smaller class sizes, and just the overall classroom experience matters a whole lot. In the mean time let her be a kid! There will be plenty of time later for the pressure to achieve!
Gifted programs have been created to keep kids from becoming bored because they are slowing down to the average ability.
If she is appropriately challenged and happy where she is, she is in the right place.
I think she is a good barometer of her boredom and abilities. If her teachers feel she needs to be pushed, that is another thing.
Those tests are a pain in the rear. I cringe every time I have to sign Andrew up for more. They are generally standardized tests and may only show part of what she can do. Not passing them could do more harm than turning down an advanced ability program. No need to damage their self esteem at such a young age!