A Worrier’s Daughter

7 Feb

I saw Nia have a minor stress freak out tonight and I felt it. In fact, I’m pretty sure I’ve lived it before. I know exactly what she was going through and I hate it. She’s too young to know that kind of worry yet. Too sweet. Too child.

While I’m glad that she cares, I’m concerned about the amount of worry she showed for such a thing. Misplacing her finished homework sent her on a stress spiral. She actually held the sides of her head in worry that she was going to get in trouble.

Did I do this to my child with all the worry I carry? She’s told me before that I worry too much. She even wrote me reminders that I shouldn’t worry. She knows it’s not a good thing yet it came so naturally and quickly for her. It makes me wonder about people who don’t worry as much. Were they raised by easy-going people? Did they train themselves to say, “Oh well. What can I do?”

I wish I had more of that in me. For me, I have to come up with positive thoughts or a solution to ease my stress. Luckily, it helped Nia. We decided that she would re-do the work, since she remembered it and it would give her something to give to her teacher. I was amazed by how much detail she put into it. She was so relieved to recreate the lost work that when Andrew told her she could go watch Nate play Wii she said, “I’m doing homework first.” Her stress was gone. I hope it stays away. After I finish worrying about her worry, I vow to ease mine to help heal hers.

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2 Responses to “A Worrier’s Daughter”

  1. Karen February 14, 2011 at 11:46 am #

    Nik,
    I work at a community college where 99% of the kids don’t care at all. I know stress isn’t good, and as someone who had an ulcer as a child, it can be out of control. That being said, it is so heartwarming to see that she does care. She wants to do well, be perceived positively by her teachers, and enjoy success. These are all wonderful things, and they aren’t seen much anymore. Kids don’t care. They get away with things, and they become sneaky and strategic. So, “don’t worry” about her worrying so much. Step in when she needs you, but let her try her best and work as hard as she does. You and Andrew do a wonderful job with your babies.

    • nikkival February 20, 2011 at 4:33 pm #

      Thank you! I like hearing your perspective. I can really see your point.

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