You Look Like a Mom

23 Feb

I remember when I first heard that. I was 28 years old. I was, in fact, a mother. Of two. I remember that I didn’t know how to take it. In that moment, it felt like an insult. Thinking, “What does that even mean?” I was at a bar, with my husband, thinking I look pretty nice in my black sweater and jeans. Now, I wish I could go back and react to it differently. How could that be an insult? I look like a mom. Without hesitation, I should have taken it as a compliment. It’s who I am.

I find it interesting how much I realize that even when I’m not with my kids. When I am by myself, I feel like I’m missing a piece of me. I don’t remember what the me in me was like before Nia and Nate. When they’re with me, I feel like I can do anything. I feel strong. Protective. Smart. Beautiful. When they are not with me, I feel insecure. Small. Even if it’s just going to the store by myself. I need my shopping buddy, Nia. Sure, I can function without her and not have a meltdown but – it’s just – I feel her absence and I notice the difference in me.

I’ve figured out that it helps if I remember that I “look like a mom” even when they aren’t with me. That proud and heartfelt feeling is invigorating. Best. Compliment. Ever.

You're so mom.

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4 Responses to “You Look Like a Mom”

  1. Katie Sharp February 23, 2011 at 7:32 am #

    Being a Mom makes us strong and beautiful. Love this!

    • nikkival February 23, 2011 at 9:57 am #

      And you are a hot mom, Katie!

  2. Joe February 23, 2011 at 11:50 am #

    Nicole you are an incredible Mom!! I count you one of the many blessings in my life..and I am certain your children and husband do the same!

    • nikkival February 23, 2011 at 10:53 pm #

      Thank you, Joe! That means so much to me! We love you all!

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