Me Worry?

16 Aug

You name it, chances are I’ve worried about it. In fact, I’ve written a blog or two about it. (I got four pages of results when I searched the word “worry.”)

I think I’m a pretty smart person. I realize worrying doesn’t get me anywhere. It doesn’t solve anything. It doesn’t change the outcome of things. It doesn’t prevent things from happening.

Why then? Why all the worry? It’s such a waste of energy, time, sanity, happiness. It’s what I’ve been reminding myself when I feel the senseless anxiety bubbling up within me. But that’s also when I start worrying (of course) – if I don’t worry, does that mean I don’t care?

I’m not sure I know how to care about something without worrying about it. If I let go of that worry, will it change how I care about it or make it seem like I don’t care?

Ridiculous, I know. See what I mean about me worrying?!

To quiet that inner loon, I’ve been trying a few things to help ease my mind and heart. They’ve been working for me so I wanted to share because they may help a worrier you know.

When I feel the worry invade my space:

    • I think of my kids. They see me worry too much. What am I teaching them? As Nia’s sweet note shows and I’ve written about, it makes her worry. If nothing else, it can’t be fun to always hear me say something worries me. That has to change. They need to be carefree kiddos.
    • I think to myself, will this worry fix the issue? No? What will fix it? Anything? Focus on that.
    • Is this going to matter next year? Next month? Next week? No? Toss it.
    • Will this define me? In 15 years, am I going to remember this moment or issue? No? That was an easy one.
    • Will this affect my family in some way? No? Not worth an ounce of stress.
    • What happy, beautiful things am I missing out on around me because I’m stuck in the fret zone? Sucker. You are letting worry rob you of the present.

The last point actually came from something recently talked about in church. I don’t always connect with what’s taught but this spoke to me. It was about how we are only supposed to think about we need for today. “Give us this day our daily bread” refers to that. This day. Focus on today, not tomorrow. Be content and full in the present because if it was my last day I wouldn’t want it spent on worrying about what might happen. I’d want it filled with rejoicing and cherishing.

That’s what brings me to the thought that seems to soothe me the most.

Am I satisfied?

I think of my here and now and feel at peace.

10 Responses to “Me Worry?”

  1. Heather Slutzky August 16, 2013 at 7:19 am #

    One of the ways I sort worry is by things that I can act on (you have a cold, I’m worried about you, I DO something and bring soup) versus when you are worried because someone is making decisions that are different than what you would do (I’m worried because she’s going on another date with him after I have decided he is a tool). The ones where other people are just doing things differently that I do … are easier for me to let go of once I name it.

    • areyouzhazha August 16, 2013 at 9:15 pm #

      Love this idea. Putting a label on it will help me a lot.

  2. Adriana August 16, 2013 at 7:56 am #

    I’m a worrier. In fact, my husbands nickname for me is “worry-wart”. Real nice, huh? I should heed your suggestions!

    • areyouzhazha August 16, 2013 at 9:14 pm #

      It’s a hard habit to break that’s for sure!

  3. Ginger August 16, 2013 at 8:28 am #

    From one worrier to another, I needed to read that! Thanks Nicole!

    • areyouzhazha August 16, 2013 at 9:13 pm #

      Thank you for my email reminder about how to let something go!

  4. Baddest Mother Ever August 16, 2013 at 10:10 am #

    “to quiet the inner loon” is today’s Phrase That Pays!

  5. Sandra M. Holmes August 17, 2013 at 1:06 pm #

    I once gave up worrying for Lent……and just about had a nervous breakdown. Joe begged me to get back to my worrying! I decided when you have kids, worrying comes with the territory! So worry away but don’t let it get so bad it bothers your kids….that’s my rule and now I’ll go worry that I’ve said too much….yikes! Sandy

    • areyouzhazha August 19, 2013 at 9:31 pm #

      Ha! I can see that happening! Worrying about not worrying.

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