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Andrew’s So Proud

30 Aug

Nate to me while in line at the grocery store – “Look Momma Look!  Fish Boon!”

Me responding to Nate – “No honey, that’s a shark balloon.”

Cashier to me – “Uh, that’s a dolphin.”


Me, trying to spell a word while trying to tell a story at the same time – “W-h-i-t.”

Andrew’s response, filled with sarcasm – “W-h-i-t?”

Me, not getting the sarcasm – “Yeah.”

Andrew’s response minus the sarcasm and filled with concern – “W-H-I-T?”

Me, finally realizing my brain fart – “Oh!  You know I know how to spell white!”


Me, trying to teach Nia that she lives in the United States of America – “It’s like when you say the Pledge.  ‘I pledge allegiance to the United States of America.'”

Andrew, half smiling in mockery – “‘… to the flag.'”

Me – “Yeah, ‘I pledge allegiance to the United States of America.'”

Andrew, more emphatically – “… ‘TO THE FLAG.'”

Me, understanding my terrible teaching – “Oh!  Right!  ‘I pledge allegiance to the FLAG of the United States of America.'”

Meanwhile, Nia is looking at me like “Geez Mom!”

Things Not to Say to a Mom Who’s Going back to Work

30 Aug

The following comments all come with a hint of snootiness from Stay-At-Home Moms I’ve come to know around town.  They make it pretty clear that I’m no longer in their “club.”

“Oh, you’re putting the kids in child care?”

“I guess you just have to do what you have to do.”

“That drive is awful.  I hated it and my kids were always so exhausted when I picked them up from day care.”

“You’re thinking about that day care?  I’ve heard some unsettling things about that day care.” (FYI – We didn’t pick that day care.)

“My daughter didn’t like that After-School program.”

“You are going to hate it when it rains.  The drive is even worse when it rains.”

“You’re going to leave for work that early?”

“You’re going to get killed on gas prices.”

“Well, if you say it’s worth it.”

“You have to drive how far every day?”

“Wow.  That’s going to be a really long day for your kids.”

“I’m sure you are going to miss all that quality time you get to spend with Nate.”

As if I didn’t feel bad/guilty/unsure enough about going back to work. Thanks for pointing out the obvious and for the support.  It would be different if they said what they said because they were genuinely concerned.  They aren’t.  They say it as they look down their nose at me.  I try to tell myself that they would do the same thing if they were in our position and given this opportunity.  Of course, I’m sure they would disagree.

 

The Best Lunch Date

27 Aug
  • A stroll through the mall – window shopping and checking out cool stuff.
  • An order of Bourbon Chicken with Fried Rice and Broccoli.
  • A spoon and a fork and a shared Styrofoam container.
  • He and I sitting side by side, allowing me to sneak smooches and help him cut his broccoli trees.
  • A hug around the neck as I carried him to his bed for a nap.  (He made it even better by saying “Momma” with such love as he wrapped his little arms around and squeezed.)

I feel so lucky Nate and I shared such a nice day together.  It made me worry that I didn’t make the right decision about going back to work but then I remembered we’ll still have our evenings and weekends to enjoy. I know he’s going to love his “school” and I think it’s really going to help him in a lot of ways. I’m just glad I have this memory to keep and to cherish and am so thankful for our little man.

 

Vacation’s Over

25 Aug

After two months of waking up late, fun tennis matches, napping in the middle of the day, playing outside with the kids and spending almost every minute of the day together, it all changes tomorrow.  Andrew’s first day back on the job begins at 8 am and we couldn’t be more excited.

As much as this has been an uncertain time, we got to be together as a family like we probably never will again.  It may seem crazy to say, but I’m actually thankful for the layoff.  What seemed like such a challenge and a bad thing really wasn’t at all.  I’m so proud of how we made the most of the situation and didn’t let it bring us down.  I think it’s so awesome that Andrew will soon be on his way to doing what he always wanted to do.  Everything happens for a reason.

I wish you luck on your first day Andrew!  You continue to amaze me with your strength, determination and positive attitude.  You are a good influence!  (Says your pessimistic wife!)

 

Paranoid

23 Aug

Call me a narc. Call me a do-gooder. Call me justified. I’ll call myself a pissed off neighbor who is tired of people not respecting other people’s property.

While our next door neighbors are on vacation, we’ve been getting their mail for them.  Friday night, I went out to get it  but I saw two people sitting on the storm drain next to their house.  I just thought it was two of our neighbors talking so I didn’t head for the mailbox.  Instead, I got our garbage cans and brought them around the side of the house.  As I was walking back inside, I noticed they were leaving so I waited for them to walk off and then went for the mail.  I thought it was weird that the two girls cut through our yards, so I let Joey out so he could bark at them. I didn’t think too much of it all until I opened our neighbor’s empty mailbox.

First thought – Andrew must have gotten it already.  No.  I would have known that.

Second thought – They didn’t get any mail.  No.  They always have a ton of mail.

Third thought – What is that paper blowing around on the grass?  Oh, and that ripped up envelope?  CRAP!  I think that’s their mail!

I looked around for more mail and my eyes caught a bunch of white paper stuffed in the storm drain.  I grabbed a piece that’s not too far in and see it is indeed their mail.

I freak out, worried that they stole something with our neighbor’s financial information on it.  I run inside to get Andrew and then run back outside to see if I see the girls anywhere.  Sure enough, I see them down the street behind our house and what do you know – I see them open up another mailbox and look inside!  I yell at them like some tough girl, “I see what you’re doing!  I found the mail!  PUNKS!  I’m calling the police!”  To all of that they reply, “Ma’am?”  I run back inside and cross paths with Andrew who’s armed with a stick of some sort (at that time he did not know they were girls!).  While he took off to chase them, I called the cops.

Andrew didn’t catch up with the girls but the officer did!  The only bad thing about it all – he drove them back to our house so we could identify them!  I say yes, it’s them but I don’t want to press charges, just give back the mail.  “Ma’am, we didn’t take no mail ma’am.”  I say, “Well then, could you give us the mail you found blowing in the wind while you were walking?”  “We don’t have no mail ma’am.”

Turns out they live either in our neighborhood or close to us and they are 23 and 20 years old!  (Here I thought they were just kids being kids.)  The 23 year old actually even had a warrant out for her arrest!  (Not sure for what.) Based off what we saw and another neighbor who saw them throw down two pieces of mail (another neighbor’s catalog credit card statement and our neighbor’s entire phone bill), they handcuffed the girls and took them away.

I’m just so freakin’ paranoid right now. They know where we live.  They know we’re the ones who reported them.  What if they retaliate? Nia and Nate’s rooms are in the front of the house.  I’m so scared they, or someone they know, will do something that could hurt our sweeties as they sleep all tucked in nice and cozy.  I want to move!  I can totally see why people don’t report crime.  The cop even asked if we owned a gun and told us to get one!  That’s comforting!

This sucks!  All we can do is move Nia’s bed away from the outside wall and pray the criminals aren’t crazy enough to want to hurt someone.

Did we do the right thing?  What about the smart thing?  What would you have done?  Am I overreacting yet again?  (Please don’t answer unless you’re going to help make me feel better!  HA!)
 

Potty Monster

21 Aug

It seems we’ve created a Potty Monster.  It’s kind of hard to complain about it though since we’ve been working on potty training off and on for some time now and we should be so excited something we’ve done finally seems to be working. It just seems our latest method of training may be working too well.

He wants to go all the time now.  ALL the time.  Even when he doesn’t have to.  Even when he just went.  All because we gave him a sweet treat after each potty trip.

That’s all he wants now.  “More cookie?  Go potty?  Get cookie!”

We try to explain to him that he just went potty and he doesn’t have to “go” but all that does is make him hysterical. He used to cry when we tried to get him to use the potty, now he cries when he tell him to wait.  It really has us confused about what to do.  If we tell him no then we’re essentially discouraging him to want to use the potty but if we tell him ok then we’re stuffing him with junk all day!

Today, we checked out a book about potty training from the library and I’m searching the net for other techniques.  I hate to change this one mid-method through though because it does seem to be working.  We just have to reduce the size of the sweet.  Something like an M&M or a fruit snack maybe.  I just don’t want to p-off the Potty Monster!
 

Beware of the Scarecrows

18 Aug

Kind of CreepyWe thought we’d encounter the most interesting sights during our trip to Georgia’s “largest flea market,” not on our way there.

At first, we drove past a few of them here and there and then it seemed as if they had taken over the small city of Hoschton, Georgia.

There were so many of them and a few were having more fun than others – riding horses, fixing cars, wearing the latest fashions.  It was a really wild sight.  Apparently, they are a part of Hoschton’s Fall Festival and, according to this news story, are popping up all over town to beat a Guiness World Record.  I can’t wait to hear if they do!

 

 

 

Class of 2021?!?!

16 Aug

First Day Excitement

It is so crazy to think that it will be the year 2021 when Nia graduates from high school.  I’ll be 43 years old.  What?  Wait a minute – I think I still have to get through the next 18 years of school days before I even let that cross my mind again.The first school day was fun, according to Nia.  She says she likes her teacher and the other students and thankfully didn’t have any major problems because our sweet, little neighbors watched out for her.  We are so grateful to have them in our lives. They are wonderful kids and we have a blast riding bikes and running from bees with them.

Buddies

Knowing that they were with her on the bus eased my nerves a ton but that doesn’t mean I didn’t burst into tears as soon as the bus pulled away.  How could I not? That’s our precious baby and there she was, barely able to climb the stairs on the bus.

Tiny Legs Tackle Big Steps

She left for school all smiles and came home the same way – only really exhausted. It seems all the fun she had at school really tuckered her out.

All Smiles

Right after that last picture was taken, she asked if I could carry her home and then asked if she could rest.  Of course I’ll baby my baby – for as long as I can.

Uncertain Certainty

15 Aug

The Certain -  Andrew has accepted a job.  He is all set to start working as a Project Controls Analyst at Overland Contracting on August 25. 

The Uncertain – It is a significant amount less than he was making and we're trying to tweak our numbers to make it all work so I might still be able to stay home with the kids.  If not, my job hunt will continue.

The Certain – This job will eventually lead him to what he's always wanted to do – work in the field of Civil Engineering.  The prospect of that makes both of us really happy.

The Uncertain – How much will the required travel keep Andrew away from home?  He was told during the interview that workers can be away anywhere from a few weeks at a time to a few months. I'd be lying if I said I was 100% ok with that. 

The Certain – It feels great for us to know we will have an income and benefits again.  Fortunately, it all is timing out well with the end of the severance and everything. 

The Uncertain – Did we make the right decision?  Should we have gambled and waited for something else? 

The Certain – It's an income.  It's a great opportunity.  It's necessary.  It's a decision. 

That's certain.

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Our Little Puzzler

14 Aug

He doesn't know his colors yet but he can tell you where Alabama (or as Andrew taught him, "Al-a-BAMA!") goes on the map.

Nate has been amazing us with his mad map puzzle skills.  He just loves to dump out all the pieces and then put them all back – over and over again.  I love it!  He already knows more than I do about geography!  (I'm lucky if I can name the seven continents.  There are seven of them right?)

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